Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Chuck - My Inspiration from His Birth

Many of you know my son, Chuck, and if you don't, you have probably heard me tell many stories about him. This kid has a heart for people that you would not belioeve. He amazes me everyday. From the time he was borm he was special, and he makes me so proud  be his dad. God has blessed him so richly.

I remember Chuck in very early grade school doing things to raise money for kids hospitals because he wanted to be a part of helping kidfs.

Now I am asking for a little help om his behalf. I saw this concept on a car website where people can sponsor different parts of a car so that no one is footing the bill for the whole thing. Well, Chuck has a surgery coming up and for reasons I may have detailed prioe to this post to you on one of the Social Networks I am a part of I am unable to help with all of these needs. Chuck has a major Palate repair and modification surgery coming up June 7th and there are some things he has to have for his post surgery and recovery procxess.

I couldn't figure out where the money would come from and I have been praying and thinking about it since I got the call from my Ex Wife and then after talking to DFS I found out the money I sent for these expenses was sent somewhere else by mistake. That isn't Chuck's fault though and so I am going to ask for help on his behalf. This really embarrassews me to ask because a dad should be prepared for everything but this was put on my heart so I am doing what I feel is what I am supposed to. I am going to place a list down here of necessities for him and I am hoping maybe some of my friends and family might be able to purchaser something to sponsor him in this process. I wish I had the funds, but I can't let my pride stand in the way of asking for help. If God moves you to help please Facebook me and I will let you know if the item has been purchased for him yet. This needs to happen sooner than later, and so if you have questions please let me know. All of this is on and the links are provided. I will leave the notes that were left for me so that we are able to get him sizes and quantities that he needs.

I suppose that I sound a little bit desperate here, but I am at a bit of a loss for what else to do. I know I have been told before and ignored it that if I need something just ask. Well, I don't need this but Chuck does. All of these things need to be mailed to this address as soon as possible. It all really needs to ship before June 3rd.

In advance, I appreciate your help. If you can't help with supplies; please pray for Chuck's surgery on the 7th of June. I just don't want Chuck to suffer because I am not in a place to send any additional help. If you have questions please contact me via phone or text at 417-5936224 or email
God Bless you all

Follow up..

Chuck has many items coming his way because of Friends, Former Co-Workers and Family. I appreciate everything that everyone did to help my son through all of this.  I have four of the most amazing boys ever and I am so very proud of them,. I  also have friends and family who don't see me for who I am, they see me for what I can be.

Chuck continues to be my Inspiration as he grows and shows more amazing qualities everyday. Kids got an amazing heart!

I love you all, and I pray for blessing on all our lives.

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Who Would\a Thunk It - Tribute to Norma Buyack

A few years ago a lady that was a very special part of my life passed away. I have been holding off on writing about the way I felt about this until it all made sense to me. Tonight I was sitting thinking about the many ways Norma Buyack impacted my life. It seems like all in a flash memories came back to me through recollections that conversations with my brother and sister seemed to spur. As I was thinking of all of these things a familiar passage came to me 

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 8Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)

I was very fortunate because I got to know my Granny better than many ever would. I stayed with her often while my Mom would work. In today’s world a kid stuck in his Grandma’s house might be seen as a nightmare, but it was just the opposite for me. God knew what He was doing when He paired my Granny and I together.

As I was growing up those who knew me would recall that I talked a lot. I talked a lot about the things I saw, and heard. I didn’t see very well but my memory was good. Granny was the sounding board for a lot of my early ideas and questions. She used to tell me things that I said in vivid detail; not just general ideas, but complete verbal documentation of my ramblings. I have come to realize now that those things were things she held onto because of her interest in me. This was a lady who loved me so much that she would hang on things I would say and then internalize them. She genuinely, patiently, and gently cared for me.

I remember times when my Granny would pitch endless innings of wiffle balls to me; she would pitch the ball to me for hours it seemed some days. We played War and Slap Jack with an old deck of cards until we couldn’t see straight. I remember her letting me go through her counters and her shelves throughout her house countless times. She never seemed to care what I got into as long as I put it back where I found it. Always it seems I would ask questions one right after the other and she would always answer them. When I am sure half the world would have told me to shut up she swould let me prattle on about anything.

As I grew up I got busier with school events and extracurricular activities. She would always make time to be there. When I sang in Church she was there, and often a tape recorder accompanied her. She not only attended, but she relived many of those events looking through pictures and programs while she listened to tapes and videos. I didn’t often see her doing it, but I knew whenever I had a question she could pull the information from an album she saved to tell me what I had done and when. I still hear people tell me to this day that there were times they would come over and she would play one of those videos or tapes for them. I just can’t imagine how anyone in this world would care that much for anything I said or sang. Even when I wasn’t singing, acting or speaking anymore she was still listening.

My Granny may have been my biggest fan; even at times when I didn’t act in a way deserving of it. As I grew older it seemed that I spent a lot of time wrapped up in stuff I was doing and found less time to share with her. Still she would be there anytime I needed her. She could always find time to listen when I didn’t feel like I could trust anyone else. She found a way to make sure I had a few extra dollars when I was short. She would encourage me when I felt like I was at the end of my rope. Granny was always happy to talk to me, and she always found ways to make me feel better about myself.

I am going to miss teasing her about the Cardinals; it gave me good practice because now I am the only Cubs fan in a house full of Cardinals lovers. I will miss her attempts at discipline. When I would get into trouble she would chase me around the house with a fly swatter, by the time she had caught up with me we were both laughing so hard neither of us remembered what I had done. At least she never really let on that she remembered. I am going to miss the rides she used to give me even though the way she drove made me wonder if I would ever reach home alive again. Most of all I am going to miss the way we would laugh about silly things, an how she always made me feel good about who I am. I am going to miss the picture she gave me of Jesus’ patience and grace.

I am so thankful that I got the opportunity in the end to tell her I love her, and to thank her for all she had done for me. I just wish I had done more of that as time passed. It seems like that is always the way life is; you never really feel like you have done enough for the ones that have given you so much.

I never would have known that my Granny would have been one of the best examples of my Savior in my lifetime? I am so thankful for the love she showed me even when I didn’t deserve it, or at least I didn’t feel like I did. My life is better because she was a part of it.

Who are those people in your life? Please don’t let another minute go by without taking the opportunity to reflect on what that person has done for you. If you have the chance please take the time to thank them for the love that they have shown you. Many people go through life wondering if they will be important enough to affect someone’s life. You might make their day if you let that person know what they have done for you.

Thanks for letting me brag a little about a sweet lady that helped shaped my life.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Going Out in Style

We are told many stories about youth gone bad, and often it's easy to color a whole generation by that series of bad apples. That's why it is so important to tell the good stories and make sure they are remembered. I want to take this opportunity to tell you about a young man who truly inspired me. Jimmy Luna worked with me at our restaurant until he passed of heart complications a couple of weeks ago. There are many reasons why Jimmy would never make the front page of any newspaper or the cover of a magazine, but at the same time that is also a sad editorial on the way society picks it's heroes.

The thing I remember most about Jimmy Luna was the smile that always seemed to be permanently engrained upon his face. In a restaurant you get busy occasionally, especially during busy seasons in Branson. Tempers can flare and cooks and service staff can get short with one another. There was no time when I found Jimmy involved in any of that tension. He seemed to always take pride in what he did regardless of how small the task seemed to be. When I saw him he always said hello to me, and genuinely seemed to care how I was feeling at any given point in time. He was kind to everyone around him and I can't remember anyone that ever had an ill word to say about him.

I waited on him and his sister the night that he passed. All of his words were seasoned with politeness and and that smile never seemed to leave his face. I was busy at the time and I found myself wishing I could have spent more time with them. It seems when we wait on employees often they get the short end of the hospitality stick when it gets steady. I just remember him being genuinely grateful that I took the time to take care of him.

I am a better person because I knew Jimmy Luna, and the impression he has left upon the lives of those who knew him will be filled with images of his smile that radiated through any room he was in. His impact upon my life has been that of true inspiration and I wanted to remember that in some way. Thank you Jimmy, for teaching us how to do life with class and happiness.